Whewwwwww! Am I the only one who feels like time is flying by? I mean, it was just January and now we’re approaching May! Geez!
A few weeks ago, I started thinking on things to do for my 27th birthday. Oh the excitement! Then it hit me, “You’re going to be twenty-seven and bae-less, which isn’t as big of a problem that it turned out to be. Once the thought came to mind, I meditated on it, not realizing it was a trap to get me to act on my emotions. I started blowing things all out of proportion. For one, my phone is already dry as a powder house so that too, came to mind. Thing is, before “this” happened, I’d already been praying and fasting, seeking God on my purpose and some much needed guidance. I’d gained a sense of peace in this particular area of my life. The enemy wasn’t having it though. He had to find a way to get me stirred up. So in the midst of my thoughts spiraling all out of control, I prayed and the Holy Spirit brought these Scriptures to my remembrance:
“But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” -Matthew 6:33-34
I’d gotten comfortable in my singleness. I’d finally gotten to that place where I was able to recline, prop up my feet, and exhale a long and exuberant “ahhhhh” before I was abruptly interrupted and had to sit back up again. This interrupted my entire zone! So now I’m casting down thoughts, praying for peace, and trying to get back to that place of contentment.
You see, it’s so easy to get so worked up by emotions! Our emotions are not our friend. By acting on our emotions, we no longer operate in faith, but God desires for us to stand in faith, trusting Him in everything. But when we start responding off of our emotions, we may start rationalizing and conjuring up thoughts. We may even begin questioning God about His timing. It pushes us to think that what we desire and want should come at the time we think is convenient. “RET NOW!” But that’s all wrong! We are single at this present moment for a reason! Maybe God is trying to work on our character! Maybe He’s doing something that will be a blessing in our relationship with whomever He sends our way! Thing is, He is preparing us in some way or another! We have to trust the process and not become consumed by our own sense of timing. Do you really want God to give you something that you’re not prepared for, so that you can mess all over it? I certainly hope not! That would mess up the entire blessing! It’ll start looking more like a curse. My prayer is, “Thy will be done on earth as it has already been established in heaven.” His will is more important. He created us, meaning He knows every single detail about us. He knows our likes and dislikes. And most importantly, He knows what we need!
Let’s take into consideration the following passage of Scripture where God didn’t give according to a want, but according to a NEED:
Now Peter and John went up together to the temple at the hour of prayer, the ninth hour. And a certain man from his mother’s womb was carried, whom they laid daily at the gate of the temple which is called Beautiful, to ask alms from those who entered the temple; who, seeing Peter and John about to go into the temple, asked for alms. And fixing his eyes on him, with John, Peter said, “Look at us.” So he gave them his attention, expecting to receive something from them. Then Peter said, “Silver and gold I do not have, but what I do have I give to you: In the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, rise up and walk. And he took him by the right hand and lifted him up, and immediately his feet and ankle bones received strength. So he, leaping up, stood and walked and entered the temple with them—walking, leaping, and praising God. Then they knew that it was he who sat begging alms at the Beautiful Gate of the temple, and they were filled with wonder and amazement at what had happened to him.
You see, this man was a beggar and he was placed daily at the entrance to the temple. It was very convenient because so many people passed through the Beautiful Gate to get to the temple. So this man could ask for money as the people walked by. It’s so easy to ask God to take care of temporary things. This man was lame but he wanted money to help with temporary problems. But God is the God of the eternal. He desires to bless us so that it would help in more ways than we know—not just for the present, but also for eternity. This man was begging for money and instead of getting the money, he was healed. After meeting Peter and John, he was able to utilize his legs and he even jumped up and praised God for giving him what he needed instead of what he wanted. “You may ask God for what you want, but don’t be surprised when He gives you what you really need” (commentary from Life Application Study Bible, Acts 3).
By experience, just believing God’s Word brings peace, that’s why it’s good to meditate on the Word of God. It then becomes planted in our hearts. When you get to that place of peace, your heart becomes settled on doing God’s will. Like me, you may find yourself with an increase hunger and desire for God. I long for more of Him. My past is evidence that I can’t live without Him. I NEED HIM! The psalmist in Psalm 42:1-2 knew the unrest that came from feeling separated from God: “As the deer pants for the water brooks, so pants my soul for You, O God. My soul thirsts for the God, for the living God. When shall I come and appear before God?” We have to get the revelation that our lives depend upon God. Even David cried out to God when he was in the wilderness of Judah: “O God, You are my God; early will I seek You; My soul thirsts for You; my flesh longs for You in a dry and thirsty land where there is no water” (Psalm 63:1, NKJV). And we know that we have a purpose to fulfill and we shouldn’t become so consumed with finding or meeting “the one” He has for us that we don’t take time to pursue Him and His purpose for our lives. Just know that He is Alpha and Omega! He’s been working things out on our behalf since before we were born! He knows the thoughts and plans He has for us, and they’re to bring us to an EXPECTED end! We need not worry about the when, how, where, and who! We just need to trust that He is working and that He sees and knows. It’ll all come together at the appointed time!
When you have those thoughts that lead you down that path of unrest, pray! Don’t act on your emotions. By doing so can lead to making unwise decisions. The best thing for you to do it pray! Cast that care to God! Show Him that you trust His timing and that you’ll wait. He knows best and He knows the right time to present blessings. In addition to praying, study the Word! Work! Enjoy this season of your life! Take trips! Move forward in purpose! Get busy living in this single season that God has given you the privilege to experience. There are so many things you can do RIGHT NOW!
“…He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord” (1 Corinthians 7:32).
So I want to encourage you to continue to pursue God. Pursue His will for your life. Work diligently! Don’t worry about time! Don’t worry about your future spouse! Work and let God work things out on your behalf! Heal if need be! If you have to, make you some declarations and recite them daily. Pray that God will prepare you and your spouse for each other. There’s so much you can do while you’re still single. Don’t waste your season of singleness complaining and bickering. Trust God! Your spouse is coming in DUE time!
Remember, no matter where we are, our desire should be for God because only He satisfies fully!
And since our biological clock is ticking, we should take into consideration what can be done now, realizing that time is very precious and shouldn’t be wasted! This is the perfect time to chase after God. Be a good steward of the time given to you!
“And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.” -Galatians 6:9